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Friday, 14 February 2020

My not so funny Valentine

Wednesday morning, I received a good morning message from a new friend, asking me whether I had slept well. I had not as she had been on my mind. Her message also cancelled our pre-Valentine lunch on Thursday. She concluded that we are not a match after all. Tuesday evening, I had come to that same conclusion but she had convinced me of giving her a second chance.

Some 30+ years ago, I met a new friend during dinner in an expensive restaurant. It was my longest dinner ever because she and I had nothing in common. Moreover, she wasn't very talkative and our silences became more frequent and longer. I promised myself never to do that again. Nevertheless, I had accepted her invitation for lunch on Thursday.

Last week, a close friend had to remind me that it was Valentine this week. She urged me to pay for lunch and also bring a small present for my lunch date. Fine with me. My only thought was that a pre-Valentine lunch was too much pressure for a first date. I put that thought to rest as she had contacted me first, by an out of the blue email.

Following her email of last Sunday afternoon, we had our first call on Sunday evening in which she invited me for lunch on Thursday. I liked her voice and was looking forward to our lunch date. Our communication slowed down the next few days. Each time, I was the one to make the first move. Tuesday evening she finally called. That call did not go well.

Later that evening, I sent her a text message asking her whether she was sure about inviting me for lunch on Thursday. I explained to her that I had felt no connection whatsoever in our second call. In a follow-up telephone call that evening, she explained things to me and she reiterated that she was still (very) interested in meeting me. I accepted her explanations.

Wednesday morning, I received her following text message: "Good morning Leon. Did you sleep well? Last night, I have thought about it again and want to cancel after all. I feel that we are not a match. []". I just replied by stating: "Wow". She sent me a question mark back. Subsequently, I have unfriended her and deleted her contact details.

Perhaps, my recent What's next blog should have stated: Who's next. Still, what felt more appropriate (in my situation) than who, although I cannot explain why. It was a gut feeling. Another friend told me that my blogs are more about situations than people. Her explanation felt valid.

"People who have been single for too long are the hardest to love. They have become so used to being single, independent, self-sufficient that it takes something extraordinary to convince them that they need you in their life." A quote by Pia Alonzo Wurtzbach, better known as Miss Universe 2015.

My Funny Valentine (1937) by Frank Sinatra


Note: all markings (bolditalicunderlining) by LO unless stated otherwise.

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