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Wednesday, 28 November 2018

Domino stones

Late October, I had a job interview that went from good, to bad to ugly. The 1st (closed) question by the 2nd interview team was: are you willing to give up your writing? My subconscious immediately realised this interview was doomed. My conscious should have replied: are you willing to give up your gardening, hockey, soccer or tennis? Instead, I replied by saying: "No".

A few days later, I had car trouble. The official car dealership tried to force me into buying a new and expensive aluminium radiator for an 11 year old Mercedes. I refused, sold my car and discovered SnappCar, a peer-to-peer ridesharing platform (my November blog). My SnappCar experience makes it unlikely that I’ll buy another car but I'm still tempted by car commercials.

Since several days, I have come to realise that both events were domino stones in a much bigger process. For about 2-3 years, I have been thinking about selling my house and relocating, either abroad or within my country. I was unable to come to any decision. Selling my house seemed easy enough but where to buy next in an overheated real estate market?

Things went fast after both events. Within a week, I decided to sell my house, without having any alternative. Only a few days later, I took an option on an apartment despite my earlier decision not to consider an apartment. Suddenly I realised that I had ignored that apartment for the wrong reasons. Moreover, I didn't want considering an apartment - again - for the wrong reasons.

My (optional) apartment meets my prime 3 real estate criteria: location, location, and location. Nearly everything else is subject to modification (ie, change). My motto is that it's better to have the ugliest house in the best neighbourhood than the best house in the ugliest neighbourhood. 

The two negative events (job, car) turned into two positive decisions (selling, buying). The main reason was that I questioned myself: what are you even waiting for?? I wasn't able to answer my own question anymore. Before, I kept open as many options as possible, and for as long as possible. However, the result was procrastination (my 2015 blog).

Ever since my big decisions on selling and buying, a peaceful easy feeling has returned into my life. Obviously, both major decisions will trigger a cascade of minor practical decisions. To some extent, these practicalities are already causing some stress (eg, what to give/throw away?)

Perhaps the most important of all is that I have faith in both decisions. Hence, I do not feel doubt or fear, just hope and love (for the new location). Faith triggers believing that you do the right thing. Beliefs empower decisions. This is another example of my concept of Faith-Beliefs-Willpower (my related blogs). I'm finally ready to move on.

Peaceful Easy Feeling (1972) by the Eagles

I got a peaceful easy feelin'
And I know you won't let me down
Cause I'm already standin'
On the ground


Note: all markings (bolditalicunderlining) by LO unless stated otherwise

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