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Wednesday, 19 April 2017

Where there's a will, there's a way

The proverbwhere there's a will, there's a way” has been bugging me lately. I agree that having a will is necessary. I also agree that there are several ways (i.e., options) in life. Nevertheless, I miss something vital in this equation. Based upon my earlier blogs, this perceived omission must relate to Faith and the triangle Faith, Beliefs and Willpower.

I am about to reach a greenfield in my life. Essentially, this means that all options (ways) are open. Abundant choice has a distinct disadvantage, like restaurants with a 20 page menu. I prefer a menu of one page. The more choice we have, the more we need to apply selection criteria (e.g., no fish). The less choice we have, the more likely we opt to be surprised. Ratio versus emotion.

I still believe that I will know my preferred way once I “see” it. I just haven't seen it despite the many options that do present itself each day. Again, emotion versus ratio. Probably all my decisions have been based on a “gut feeling”, apart from grocery shopping. Even then I sometimes suddenly buy an item that was not on my list (e.g., liquorice candy or “drop” in Dutch).

The many options that are on my path, could suggest that my will is lacking. Being strong-minded, I doubt that. When I read the details of such options then my mind asks: Why me? I'll be bored within a year and neither the employer, intermediary or I will benefit from that. Worst of all, I would have no convincing answer when someone would ask: Why should we hire you? Latter is usually my reason for passing the buck.

Sometimes I see an opportunity and feel that my passion for work is returning. With hindsight, I'm often glad that these opportunities do not materialize. I don't need or want a full time job that allows me a luxurious lifestyle again but that prevents me from living. More and more, I'm inclined to accept the situation that I'm in since mid 2013.

My acceptance is also transpiring from my choice of words: from “in between jobs” to “unemployed” and later from “sabbatical” to “considering early retirement”. My recent discussion with the tax authorities felt like a reality check. The compromise I reached, supports my view. Nevertheless, I do miss a part of my former life but certainly not the stress.

I am not eager to burn my bridges and I'm moving with caution on this path/way that I'm taking. I'm still not fully convinced that this is my way. So, there's a will and there's also a way but I'm still lacking belief in that way. The main reason is that my “inner voice” tells me that something suitable will come along. I've always trusted my “inner voice”, whatever you call it: awareness, beliefs, conscience, consciousness, mind, subconscious, or just thoughts.

I think, feel and believe that your deeds, words and thoughts (Zoroastrianism), or body, mind and soul need to be in balance before making important decisions. I call this concept Faith, Beliefs and Willpower. Willpower is about decisions and their execution. Beliefs drive choices and decisions. Faith makes your beliefs and your willpower long-lasting.

Faith (1987) by George Michael - artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-1, Wiki-2

‘Cause I gotta have faith
I gotta have faith
‘Cause I gotta have faith, faith,
‘Cause I gotta have faith, faith, faith